How confident do you feel?
I know it is tricky to build your confidence, especially when it comes to network marketing. However, it is also vital because doing so will make you a much happier person and people are drawn to both confidence and happiness. Not everyone is born with self confidence (in fact, studies show that most people aren’t), but anyone can learn to be more confident. Confidence will make you a strong leader, speaker and communicator – all skills you need to run a successful network marketing business. Here are 10 steps to help you right away. If you take these steps and practice them often, over time your will confidence will soar and your business will thrive. The saying in our business is “Your business will only grow as YOU do.”
1. Control your thoughts!
Research has shown that the average human has 65,000 thoughts per day and 85% to 90% of them are negative. Did you read that right? That number is way to high! Be aware that your brain works that way and when you start thinking negatively, remember that they are just thoughts, not reality. If you don’t meet your phone call goal for the day, for example, don’t dwell on it. Stay positive so you can try again the next day. At the end of the night, I often ask the question: What was the best thing that happened today? That is what I want to go to sleep thinking about, not the nightly news. Be very careful who and what you let speak into your life.
2. Be grateful!
Start your day with gratitude by thinking of all that you have to be thankful for. I can confidently say that being grateful changes everything. Remember that most of the seven billion people on this planet do not have the same opportunities as you. Then you will be in the right frame of mind for the rest of the day. I have a recurring event in my calendar that says: Nothing new can come into my life until I am grateful for what is there now.
3. Always push forward!
Understand that most of us lack confidence, especially when we start something new. This is extremely pertinent for the network marketing industry. However, we need to move forward anyway. If you struggle with confidence, you are probably thinking “well, that is easy for you to say!” but it’s true! Most people do not go into something new full of confidence but they have worked through it. Also keep in mind that meditating your way to build confidence may not work – you just need to push through it!
4. Take steps outside of your comfort zone.
If you do so, your comfort zone will expand. It is important to get out there and experience something new and frightening. When you do you will realize it’s not so bad. When I notice that I am feeling nervous or uncomfortable, that is when I pat myself on the back and say, “I must be doing something outside my comfort zone”. I also have learned that when I really resist something, then it usually means that is what I really need to do. We have another saying in our business: Your biggest resistance will be your biggest paycheck. It is easy to be busy doing things within our comfort zone. The things that will pay you the best are OUTSIDE your comfort zone.
Build your confidence one step at a time.
5. Be OK with a “NO.”
If you do not associate your feelings of self worth with getting “no” for an answer, then you won’t feel that bad. Be OK with just walking away from someone if they are being rude or they just don’t get it or what you have to offer them isn’t a fit for them. A great book to read is Go for No by…. The more no’s you get, the more yes’s you will get too.
6. But remember to always bounce back up!
Everyone experiences failure at some point in their life it is natural. Once you get back up you will have learned what does not work and can give it another try. The more chances you take, the more successful you will be. Failure isn’t even a word that I like or use, because of all we learn from our mistakes and mishaps, then they aren’t really failures, they are just learning lessons.
7. Practice, practice, practice!
In almost any situation, if you prepare beforehand you will feel more self-confident. Do you have to give a speech or are you going to meet with an important prospect? Practice before hand, maybe even record yourself and listen. Do you research about the prospect and check their social media profiles as well.
8. Start to share what you are learning.
Build your confidence by teaching. Invest your time learning something and then teach that to others! It could be through online content or to your friends. The feedback you receive will do wonders for your self-confidence. There is nothing like teaching to really help you embrace what you have learned. And it is so true, the move value you provide, the more you will attract people to you.
9. Watch your posture. And not the stand up straight kind.
Sometimes you just have to pretend you have self-confidence, even if you don’t. For example, if you are sharing your opportunity and you are feeling less than spectacular about it, remember your posture is everything. Your audience doesn’t know your confidence level. Sometimes you have to cop an attitude and make people believe it. I guarantee you will feel confident and next time you will start off with a bang! Never ever ever give your power away. And if you feel it slipping, grab it back!
10. Last, but most important, get plenty of sleep and exercise!
Several different studies have shown that if you get enough sleep, exercise and good nutrition, your mood and effectiveness will be profoundly boosted. Even moderate exercise three times a week for 20 minutes will do a lot for your brain, which will in turn boost your self-confidence.
Build Your Confidence, Build Your Business
I wish you the best as you build your confidence, change your life and create a thriving business. These tips can be easier said than done, but I know once you start it will be a snowball effect. It takes practice and reminders for sure. Watch your self-talk. You hear your words way more than anyone else’s. Ironic isn’t it? Cheers to you and your confidence!