Have you noticed that in our network marketing businesses, sometimes it is hard to get motivated and stay motivated? A wise mentor said to me years ago “The trick in business is to stay excited for years”. Easier said than done! Indecision and lack of motivation to make those decisions can sometimes give us that paralyzing feeling – where we don’t know what do next. You may struggle with lots of decisions you have to make. Whether it’s a small thing like where to grab lunch or large things like purchasing a new car. The process to make up your mind can take up a great amount of your time and energy. Due to indecisions, you may often show up late, not get nearly as much done as you had set out to do and the perception among your peers could even be that you are disorganized. Another wise mentor said to me years ago, “When you don’t know what to do, just do something. Do anything!” Sounds funny but it is true. It is doing nothing that keeps us stuck.
So what is causing this? Perhaps you have developed the idea that whichever action you take has no effect on your life. You may not feel in control and that life is directing you, instead of you directing your life. That is the biggest myth: that you don’t control what happens in your life. You can DO anything you want to do. You can BE anything you want to be. It’s important to believe that you have control over your outcomes and the ability to motive yourself. The truth is we make decisions all the time. All day long. Even when we don’t realize it. Making no decision and not taking the actions to fulfill our dreams and goals is a decision too. Staying in overwhelm mode is a decision. Getting bored with the business activities you need to take is a decision. Are you making great decisions? Are you doing what it takes to keep yourself started? Staying started is the key in our business and any business for that matter.
The good news is there is a way to get things done and a way to overcome that feeling of indecisiveness and inaction. Here are 4 steps that you can take NOW to feel more motivated, regardless if you have uncertainty or are fearful about the action to be taken.
There’s no right way to decorate, is there? A bedroom or an apartment is decorated how you want to decorate it. There’s no right or wrong way. There’s also no right or wrong way in how you live your life. Some quiet time for yourself can help eliminate the pressures and noises from your day. This time will allow you to listen to your inner voice. I have a friend who speaks of getting a “feeling” when something doesn’t seem right. I know that feeling well. It is our inner voice. And when we don’t listen to it, it always comes back to bite us. That voice or gut feeling helps us in the decisions we make, be it at home or at work. This is our intuition – there to guide us all the time! When I was younger, I didn’t always listen to it. Boy, am I glad I know now to listen to it. The answers are inside of us. We just stay so busy sometimes and choose not to listen. Take time to listen to yours and what it tells you. Your intuition will get louder the more you listen to it.
You need to believe in YOUR ability to shape your own life. Successful people do it all the time. Believe you can do anything from throwing a party to even traveling in space; whatever it is you want to do, you can do it! Successful people are motivated to take action because they KNOW they are in control. And if you think about it. They’re right. We have all the control over what we do. You control the effort that you put in at work. You control how you treat others. The one thing that anybody has control of is effort. I read years ago this important teaching and I think about it all the time: From moment to moment, we decide how we are going to be in the world. Every moment.
You can either live your life as it happens TO you or you can make things happen in your life. Which person are you? Is life happening to you or are you deciding and creating the life you want? A great quote that I love was made famous by Walt Disney: “The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing”.
Reflect on times in your past where you had success. Past wins can help propel you to future success. What have you done in the past that you feel really good about? Think about when you secured that job out of college or bought a new house. Maybe you moved across the country. These are examples of you making BIG decisions. You’ve proven that you can do it and you can do it again. Sometimes, we need to remind ourselves how capable and talented we really are. I write in a journal on a regular basis. It includes gratitude, goals, dreams, plans and dream boards. Taking the time to reflect on a regular basis on what has gone well and what is going well is key for me. At the end of the day or the end of the decade or the end of my life, I want to feel great about what I did get done and the life I lived. Not what didn’t get done…
And Then What?
Making a decision can be frightening. Keep asking yourself “and then what?” until you get to bottom of it. You may worry about whether or not you should pursue a prospect or a geographic area. What if you don’t do it? What if it works? What if it doesn’t? What do you have to lose. Sometimes, I ask myself the question – what is the worst thing that could happen? And usually, the worst thing that can happen isn’t too bad and I can live with the risk. Let’s break it down with the following:
- You call the prospect and they say no, thanks. And then what?
- You’ll be disappointed. And then what?
- You may feel like it wasn’t worth it. And then what?
- Maybe you will feel discouraged. And then what?
- You think of another great prospect to get in touch with. And then what?
- You keep reaching out to people. You keep meeting new people. And then what?
- You ask for some referrals and you sponsor a new distributor and some new customers. And the process begins again.
You just need to go for it! Not getting that prospect isn’t the end of the world. By asking yourself “and then what?” you can guide yourself down a path that it may not be the worst thing to happen. Often, it is the path we are on that leads to the BEST things that happen in our lives. For this example, you can gain confidence to ask the prospect for referrals and/or to be a customer and then other opportunities may open up that you didn’t even consider. You are in control. Remember, successful people control their own lives.
The power is yours to choose how you want to live! We can have such fears about making the wrong decision, that we don’t make a decision and don’t take action. It is in the action, the doing of it, that the good things happen, even if it isn’t the “perfect choice”. It never is. If at the end of the day, you moved your business and your life forward, that is what counts!