Simple Steps to Getting the Life You Want

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Every January, we all go through the motion of setting New Year’s resolutions. They usually range from eating healthier, a gym membership, learning a language and perhaps skydiving, being more forgiving of others or cutting back on television. The central point to most resolutions is changes to ourselves and helping us be the person we want to be.  We have the best intentions.  This year.  This time… Unfortunately, by February, most of those good intentions that we set for ourselves seem to fade away and eleven months later we find ourselves setting the same resolutions for the next year. Here are a few pointers to keep it all in perspective and keep you on track all the way until December.

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Change Can Be Difficult

It couldn’t be said any clearer.  Change can be difficult.  I don’t like change either….It can be scary as well but I have found regret can be a lot scarier. As you begin to make changes in your life, it may seem like too much so you take a step back and then two, and then we no longer pursue what we set out to do.  We have to find that inspiration in ourselves to continue and realize that change, as difficult as it may seem, will be so worth it in the end.  I love to have the really big dream “out there” and creating a dream board specifically for that dream has always helped me manage the difficulties that are bound to come up when we make big changes.

Step By Step

Changes don’t have to be done in one giant leap. When we try to take it all on all at once, that is when it is easy to just give up.  Chunk it down into doable steps.  Keep it simple and manageable. Small steps are better than no steps and will help you reach your goal without  experiencing the feeling of being overwhelmed. Figure out your goal -what it is you really want and determine where you currently are and set those increments and you’ll have achieved it before you know it.  Losing weight is one of the most common goals we set and then get frustrated by.  I have found that no matter what the goal, what we can measure and track, we can change.  Writing down what I eat and weighing myself every week at the same time and same day has definitely helped me.

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Don’t Give Up

This is where self-help can run into it’s biggest obstacle. That moment when you feel your goal is too big to accomplish and you start to lose the drive to achieve it. I urge you not to give up. The goals we set for ourselves for self-improvement are things we recognize need changing.  Stay with it because if it is something that important to you, you can do it. Keep in mind why you started so you can remain motivated.  You may think that your goal is tough but remember, so are you.  It is when I look back at what I have accomplished over the years that I realize that the times were the toughest also created the most powerful changes in me.

Take Time for Yourself

With all the references to embracing changes, taking time and not giving up, be sure to take regular moments for yourself and reflect on the progress you have made. Celebrate the wins!  This time will give you a chance to re-evaluate your plan and make any changes that may be necessary. These checkpoints can build up your self-confidence as you ask how you’re doing and the goal you set becomes closer to achieving.  I can’t tell you how much it helps me to have a quarterly check in with my goals for the year.  It keeps them top of mind and always reminds me what I have accomplished and what I need to spend time on.
Here is another great resource for you for self-help.   I came across this blog by Susie Moore that I encourage you to read called The Top 5 Lessons I’ve Learned After Reading 500+ Self-Help Books. I loved this article!  It also provides great book recommendations for you to explore the world of self-help further.

 

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How Journaling Keeps You Moving Forward

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As the first quarter of the year has ended, now is a great time to reflect on all that has occurred, both personally and professionally, in your life. Are there any changes you wish you had made earlier? Have you made progress on the goals that you set for yourself? How are you keeping track of the goals and your progress? A great way to keep it all contained is by journaling your efforts.

By keeping a journal, you can track your growth and it gives you little moments each day for self-reflection. There can be a lot of events throughout the day and it can be a challenge to keep everything in your head and journaling provides a great method to capture those events and process them on a daily basis. Some of the items you write down may just be random thoughts, they could be your perspective on events or they can be a way to check on your progression and challenges you may need to overcome.  I have been journaling for years!  Too many to count and I can say it has been therapeutic, meditative AND empowering all at the same time.  I journal several times a week and it always helps me with perspective and positivity.

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If you haven’t started a journal before, it can be tough to get started and to find a cadence in which to write entries. Here are a few tips I found that helped me and still do that will help you to get started on the right foot:

Select A Medium: Where you choose to write your journal won’t have an effect on the content of it. Every medium will have pros and cons so be sure that you pick something that works best for you. I love using a beautiful notebook. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate. By using a notebook, it gives you time to disconnect from the online world and from any other distractions that can arise by using a computer.  It is also fun to see the journals from previous years begin to stack up on the bookshelf.  Your own personal history.  🙂

Set Limitations: There are going to be times where your journal entries will come very naturally and it may be hard to keep up with all your thoughts and goals. Other days may prove to be a struggle to get anything written down. You can try to either limit the amount of words or pages that you write per entry or you can set a timer for how much time per day you dedicate.   In the beginning, I think it is important to write your thoughts and ideas every day or almost every day.  I now write several times a week but not every day.  It is a time I definitely look forward to!

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Dedicate Time: The ability to keep a journal can be an impactful activity for yourself so it’s important that you make it a part of your daily routine. I usually sit down with my journal first thing in the morning.  It helps me start a great day.  Set the same time each day to take a break from the world and write in your journal. It can be about your thoughts or your goals but the important thing is to make the time to do it. Mornings can allow you to start with a clear head and evenings can be good to utilize the entry about the events of the day. Pick a suitable time and follow through with it.  Believe me, this process helps with gratitude too!

Keep Focused on Goals: If you haven’t considered it, I suggest that you keep your goals for the year at the back of your journal so you can refer to them easily.  Journaling is a wonderful way to keep track and remind yourself of any goals you have set. This will help you stay on track in your pursuit to achieve them and any progress you have made towards them.  Focus on what you have accomplished too.  This isn’t the place to moan about what you haven’t gotten to but to gently remind yourself that these are things you really set out to do this year.

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Be Open & Honest: One of the best aspects about keeping a journal is that you have the ability to be open and honest with yourself with each and every entry you write. All those thoughts and ideas that you may have been hesitant to share with others can be contained in your journal so utilize it as the outlet it is. If you’re concerned that unintended parties may see it, this may hinder your ability to truly be open. (Maybe you remember your childhood diary being found?) Keep your journal in a private place just for you.

The process of keeping a journal is one of the easiest ways to keep us engaged on our goals and how we spend our time. By taking just 10-15 minutes a day to write down the events, your thoughts and your progress can provide you with a creative outlet!  I really do look forward to writing in my journal and it is also the place where I keep my travel dream boards.  I travel so much that I created 5 x 7 dream boards that I can enjoy and ponder too while I journal.  One stop shopping so to speak!

Another bonus is that by acknowledging every goal we have achieved, we begin to build confidence in ourselves.  Journaling just makes us feel good.  There really is a therapeutic and meditative component to it.  Every entry you write is a snapshot of that day and, years from now, as you look back on the entries you’ve written, it will be interesting to see how much progress you’ve really made.  Even if you never look at the entries again, it is comforting to know they are there.  Have a great day and hope you start or love journaling as much as I do.

 

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Morning Rituals To Win The Day

Morning Rituals to Win the Day

Everyone is looking for ways to increase their productivity, feel more confident and just feel a greater sense of happiness on an everyday basis. One of the real secrets and one of my favorites to making this all happen for you is by establishing a morning ritual. The saying is by winning the morning, you will win the day.

The first moments after you wake up can determine how your whole day will go. If you tend to wake up with feelings of stress, negativity or just plain tired, then chances are you won’t be enjoying the rest of your day. If you believe this to be how you start most of your days, you’re not alone. It is hard to believe but most people tend to start their day feeling negative. They will start their day trying to react to everything they feel they haven’t accomplished. Or that to do list is running through your head first thing! Or your first thoughts might be what you forgot to do the day before. You can feel sluggish until you get that caffeine boost from one or two (or more) cups of coffee. In order to feel a change, you need to make a decision. It is good to take a few moments when you first wake up and think positive thoughts like – What do I get to do today for the sheer joy of it? What do I have to be truly grateful for? Or what is the best thing that happened yesterday? I thought I would share with you seven simple rituals that we all can do and will help give you that energy you need for every day.

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Make Time for Gratitude: I recently blogged about showing gratitude and asking yourself on a regular basis “what are you grateful for?” This one question can leave a great impression on your entire day and the earlier you ask the question, the better your day will be. Taking the time to write down and think about the things that you are grateful for can provide you with that positive attitude to help you tackle your day. How we choose to view things sets the tone. You could keep a gratitude journal on your nightstand and whether you take a moment at the end of the night or first thing in the morning to write down what you are grateful for – either way, you will feel lighter for it!

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Drink Water: Keeping yourself hydrated goes a long way to taking care of your body. When you wake up, your body is dehydrated and needs water. During that first hour of waking up, try to drink good old fashioned water! Drinking water will help your body wake up and you will feel more invigorated. Who knows? You may not even need to rely on coffee anymore or not as much.

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Get Up, Get Moving: Nothing will start to get the blood flowing like physical activity. Emotions are connected to how we use our bodies which makes it even more important that we use it to prepare for the day every morning. Do some stretching or yoga or go for a walk first thing in the morning to wake your body up and provide you with the energy for a more productive day. All of those types of exercise have the added benefit of being meditative too.

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Feed Your Mind: What do most people read in the morning? The newspaper. Unfortunately, most of the news that we read or watch on television is negative and this can affect your mood. I often take news fast. It is embarrassing sometimes because I may not know to the minute the biggest and latest news, but I feel more grounded and happier for it. Instead of the news or the newspaper, try to read something full of positivity or encouraging. Read pages from a book you enjoy, watch videos that can help give you the inspiration you need. This positivity that you can do in just a few minutes can carry on throughout your day.

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Feed Your Body: Feeding your mind is part of it, but you can’t forget about feeding your body. Make sure to give your body what it needs. Everyday, we are shown ads with messages about healthy breakfasts but most of us are opting to choose “healthy” versions of foods that are bad for us instead of selecting healthy options that are actually good for us. What we put into our bodies helps determine what we get out of them. Instead of a doughnut or frozen waffles, why not go for a vegetarian omelet or a vitamin packed protein shake?

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Plan Your Day: The majority of us will start each day without a plan or even a sense of direction that our day will take so we spend it reacting to things that come up. Instead, plan and write out, what you’re looking to accomplish for the day. Not a laundry list of to-do’s but the top 3 or 4 things you want to get done that day. Writing it down will help your brain focus on the tasks for the day and increase the chance that you’ll be able to cross them all off your list. If you will just take a few minutes to plan out your day, you will see an increase in productivity – which makes us more content too.

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Smile: Last, but certainly not least, this is just as simple it sounds. Smiling every morning can have a great impact on your mood because smiling will help send signals to your brain and release chemicals that will give you the feeling of happiness. Smiling helps you appreciate each day and helps get your day off on the right foot. My husband knows the value of this – he smiles all the time! He has serious smile lines that he says he has worked hard to get. Just about everyone loves to be greeted with a smile.

Hope you start to use even just a few of these. Or maybe you already do most of these but there is one or two you want to add. The benefits to your day are tremendous. By using just a few, you will notice an increase in your energy, your productivity and just feel happier! People around you will also notice a change. You’ll start to feel less stressed and more relaxed. Here’s to better mornings and more fun throughout the day because of a great start to the day!

 

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Goodbye 2016, Hello 2017

Hello 2017

Have you noticed there are lots of recaps of 2016 going around?  We can’t help but be reminded of all the major events that occurred over the past 12 months. I always enjoy these recaps but I can’t help but think about two things:

  1. I didn’t play a factor in these events
  2. I can’t change anything about them now

What I can do with these recaps is to learn what others went through; what they experienced and the events that occurred and to think about how those lessons could apply in my own life.

On a more personal note though, I have found that a great use of my time is to recap and review the highlights that happened in MY own life in the past year.  I actually love this exercise every year.  In early January I spend an hour and go through my calendar to remember all the great things that happened.  I encourage you to do the same.  It is a great opportunity to relive the moments of your life and remember all the great things you did and all the great things you enjoyed.

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Start with Successes: Out of all the good things that occurred in your life, did you take the time to fully appreciate them? Were there any significant accomplishments that you achieved and that you were proud of? High achievers tend to miss the pleasures that come when you reflect on success.   Spend a few minutes while you are remembering and celebrate the successes, the wins, and the moments.

 

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Look at Setbacks: Look at the setbacks that may have occurred. Did you learn any lessons from them? Did you make any changes in your behavior that will lessen or reduce any future setbacks? Do you feel that there is anything you could do now that may affect the difficulties that may have occurred?

 

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Life Relationships: Consider all of the important relationships that are in your life. Keep your focus on the truly important relationships. Recap all of the good memories you had with them.

Now that you have remembered the great things from 2016 now look into 2017 to shape your ideas, set goals and solidify plans for how you really want your life to be. Use those lessons from the past to help create your successes in the future.

Another exercise I do every January is I choose a word for the new year.  One, two or three words that capture the essence of what I want the brand new squeaky clean year to be about.  Last year the words for the year 2016 were Faith.  Play.  Laugh.  I am not sure yet what the word for 2017 will be.  I am thinking on it as I write this.

I’d like you to think of a word that you feel best captures what it is that you desire for 2017. Write that word down. This word will be the basis of setting yourself up with 5 big audacious goals for the new YEAR!  Come from a place of being inspired.  Don’t limit yourself.  Think about what it is you really want and then write those down.  I refer to my goals and dreams at least every month.  Who do you want to become?  What do you want your life to really look like?  How do you want this year to be different?  What do you want more in your life?  What do you want less of in your life?  We really do create our lives.  Life happens and we certainly don’t have control over much, but we can control our thoughts and our actions.

I wish you all the best a New Year has to offer.

 

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Building on Gratitude for 2017

Building on Gratitude for 2017

It’s the most wonderful time of year where gratitude is on display for all to see. Why is gratitude such a GREAT thing? Gratitude above anything else puts all of us in a state of grace to feel good about what we already have in our life. The holiday season if we choose, gives us the opportunity to express gratitude in so many ways.  Gratitude can be magical at this time of year.  Maybe that is a big part of what makes this time of year what it is and without it we can feel lonely or lost.  We all have things to be grateful for – even when we have to look for them or dig for them.  At this time of year, we put ourselves in a bigger state of grace when we give gifts of appreciation and love to our family and friends, when we make more donations to people who need our help and when we take extra time to write special notes in holiday cards, just to name a couple.

 

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Unfortunately, sometimes showing gratitude ends after Auld Lang Syne. Imagine if more of us decided to keep practicing gratitude and sharing optimism for the entire year?  What kind of effect could that have, not just on others, but on yourself? The impact it has on your own well-being can be overwhelming.  I know this from experience.  Some of the positive effects that showing gratitude on a regular basis can have on our being include:

  • Increased feelings of optimism, joy and happiness.  We are happiest when we are grateful!
  • Strengthened immune system.  We are healthier when we are grateful!
  • Lower feeling of loneliness.  We feel more connected when we are grateful!
  • We sleep better with less anxiety.  Even our Z’s are better when we are grateful!

By practicing gratitude and thankfulness daily, even weekly, it can help better our perspective. We will attract more of what it is we want!  I practice gratitude almost every day.  If I think I don’t have time to write in my gratitude journal, then while I am walking or driving I will list out 10 things I am grateful for.  When I go to sleep at night, I fall asleep thinking about the good things that happened that day that I am grateful for.  Which means I fall asleep smiling.

 

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Improve Your Optimism

If you are looking to improve your level of optimism and increase your overall well-being, try a few of these exercises:

  1. Sit down and write a letter to someone (not necessarily someone you know) and thank them for something they have done. This can make quite the impact on their lives and can increase their level of happiness, and yours.  Even if you don’t send it (which I hope you will), it will increase the level of grace you feel inside.
  2. Reach out to 3 of the people you love and tell them how much you value them and what they mean to you. Too many people forget to do this and it can do wonders for the relationships you have with them, especially at this time of year.  You never know how someone is really feeling until you peel back the layers and be with them.
  3. At the end of each week, find a quiet spot and reflect on the prior week.  Write down five things that happened during the week that you’re grateful for. This little exercise can increase your optimism and your happiness right away!

 

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”

John F. Kennedy

 

 

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Ways to Build Gratitude

  • Make a list of everything you are grateful for.  Write till you exhaust the ideas that come to you.
  • Every morning, when you wake up, have a sentence that you say out loud.  Mine is “This is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it.”
  • Keep a gratitude journal and write 10 things you love in your life every time you can.
  • Disrupt a stressful moment with a smile and remember what is good that is happening.
  • Balance out your complaints with positive thoughts.  Rein the negativity back in.

 

I recently heard a word that I had never heard before: brutiful.  The combination of life is brutal and life is beautiful. Life is truly both things and when we embrace both there is a peace within us that happens. We are living in uncertain times and now, more than ever, it’s important to be optimistic for a joyful and positive 2017.

I wish you all the happiest last days of 2016 and from my family to yours, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and the Happiest of New Years!

 

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Top Qualities To Look For In A Prospect

Top Qualities to Look for in a Prospect

As you begin to build your MLM business,  you will not be able to avoid the task of recruiting new prospects.  Sometimes you may want to, but it won’t work…:)  So how can you best maximize your time to focus on those that have the potential to be great MLM leaders?  Over the last ten years, I have figured out there are a few key traits that you should be aware of as you go through your recruiting techniques.

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Previous Success: The chances of you being able to convince a fairly successful prospect to leave their current MLM network to join yours is highly unlikely.  However,  people who have success in another field are exactly the kind of prospect you should pursue.  I was that prospect.  10 years ago I was brand new to network marketing but I brought with me my previous success in business and real estate.  Any prospect who has some success in a previous field could be classified as a greater fit for MLM than someone who has dropped out of school and hasn’t had great employment history.  We aren’t looking for the couch potatoes…Working hard and the desire to obtain goals are traits your  MLM prospects must have.

Ambition: Successful people tend to share this common trait. We are hungry, driven, and are just plain looking for more out of life.  The status quo just won’t do and we tend to be visionaries, looking for the next steps to making a better life and how to achieve it.  The prospects that possess this trait are a hot commodity so try to add as many people with ambition as you can.  I have always been driven to succeed whether it was UC Berkeley, IBM, cooking school or investing in real estate.  Look for people who have that drive.  It will be so much more fun for you to work with them.  And if you aren’t that ambitious person yet, then really think about what your vision for your life is and make a decision to go for it.

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Willingness to Learn: Regardless of where the prospect may be starting from, there’s a decent chance that there will be things that they’ll need to learn and be coached through so they have the tools to be successful.  The prospect’s willingness to be coached and taught is a crucial element.  As you discuss the opportunity with your prospect, are they cutting you off during the conversation?  Do they seem to know everything there is to know about MLM? Keep in the back of your mind “Are they coachable?”.  If they aren’t willing to learn anything or take your advice, then chances are they may not be the great prospect you were looking for.  Keep that in mind for yourself too – none of us have all the answers and the more open we are to learning, the faster we and our businesses will grow.

Entrepreneurial Mindset: As you first begin to interact with a prospect is when you should start to assess them and figure out what their motivations are.  The important part is determining their mindset about finances and money.  Do they think that making money is about having a job and getting paid or is it reflected more in an investment and profits sort of way? Don’t get me wrong.  Wage earners play an important role in society but the hourly earning approach may not necessarily make them into the MLM leaders of tomorrow.  It might but it might not.  A person who has knowledge about owning a business or investments may be more likely to possess entrepreneurial qualities and have a better understanding of the startup costs that are required to begin and know that building a business doesn’t happen overnight.  It takes time and the entrepreneur knows that and is willing to put the time in.  If you have limited time for prospecting, then focus on small business owners.  It is the best use of your time!

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Upbeat Attitude: You won’t like being around or be willing to coach prospects with a negative attitude.  It can be difficult to be around people that have a constant pessimistic outlook on life.  Our MLM business works so much better with people that are upbeat and positive.  Those negative people will need to have a huge change in their mindset in order to make it work.  Make sure to pursue the prospects that possess that positive outlook already because it’s those people that will potentially have an easier time prospecting themselves and won’t be discouraged at the first signs of difficulty.  And if you have a debbie downer attitude, get to work on seeing the cup is half full instead of half empty.  At least half full.

Self Starter: These are the type of people who will go out there and get things done.  Having people that are self-motivated as part of your team will prove to be a great asset as they are capable of identifying their own strengths and weaknesses.  Self-starters aren’t waiting to be told by anyone on what their next steps should be.  They recognize what paths are needed to be taken and take action.  These prospects will typically show the most enthusiasm.  I was a self-starter in this business 10 years ago.  I didn’t know what I was doing but I didn’t wait for someone else to tell me.  I figured it out.  If you have a great upline and training system to tap into, then by all means that is a great place to start but don’t tell yourself you won’t make it if you don’t.  It is amazing what we can achieve when we decide to.  I am so glad I decided!

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Communication Skills: Prospects that have the ability to communicate clearly are a bonus to any downline.  Communication is more than being able to relay the messages they’re trying to convey but listening as well.  We want to listen twice as much as we talk.  Ask great questions.  Draw people out.  Show interest in what they are saying and being able to effectively express your own thoughts through verbal and non-verbal cues is a skill that can help grow any MLM business.  Look for people who are good at talking to people and care about communicating in a positive way.

These are what I consider the most important traits to look for during your prospecting time. Keeping them in mind as you speak with people will steer your efforts and time towards those who can help you get where you want to go faster and with more fun!

 

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