In today’s world, many of us find ourselves blending families together. In fact, approximately 1 out of every 3 Americans are either a step-parent, a step-child or belong to some form of a blended family meaning over 100 million people.
In network marketing, there are over 100 million people worldwide involved so there must be some overlap between the two. If you’re involved in this cross section then this blog post is for you! It’s also for anyone who wants to build a bigger business and still have fun interacting with their families and teams.
Blending families, or building your team, is not always easy but it can be one of the best things that you’ve ever done. I know it was for me! So, I was thinking about how many of the personality traits that are needed to blend a family are similar, and handy, for building our business and I thought I would share these.
First, there’s patience. Patience with your extended new family and with your new distributors. Our daughter asked me recently how I stay so calm. I’ve been through a lot in my life and have learned that the little things, and most things, are just not big enough or worth stressing or fighting over. I’ve also learned to think before speaking and that sometimes not saying anything is best. Then there are those occasions that call for a simple count to ten and exhale. 1, 2, 3, 4,…
Meet people where they are. This doesn’t necessarily mean physically but meet them where they are in their life and lessons. This can happen in two ways:
- Don’t set an agenda for who people should be or where they need to be. See them for where they are right now.
- Don’t sacrifice or adapt yourself in order to accommodate others.
By meeting people where they stand, and being authentic, it will pave the way for honest conversations and true connections.
Celebrate people’s strengths and downplay their weaknesses. Children need to know that you understand and like them. It doesn’t do any good if you’re always asking them to clean their rooms or empty the dishwasher. You have to focus on what is working and what is positive too. I can’t stand feeling like a nag and nobody likes to be on the receiving end of that either. This is the same for your teams. Focus on what people are doing well and look for those wins. A simple “good job” or “nice work” or “we appreciate you” can go a long way.
Consistency. Be consistent with your actions when you’re either talking to your teenager about cleaning up the family room or speaking with prospects about the products or opportunity: consistency is key. When things are inconsistent, people can find situations difficult to predict and have a sense of lack of control. When you’re consistent in your behavior with people, this will create trust with them.
Last, but certainly not least, if you care about a person, let them know how much. Whether it’s your kids, your mom, your prospects, or your team. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much it is you care and now during the holidays is a perfect time to take a little extra time to let people know they matter to you. I wish you all the best during the holiday month!